Love Horoscopes (week beginning 26th September)
Well I'm going to be frank this week, because I know you like to get straight to the point and not shilly-shally. Endeavour to be direct and honest about what you want. Don't angle your pitch in a way that sounds distinctly like you've got something to hide. It's often what we don't say that gets taken the wrong way. With truth comes acceptance, even if it's not what we want to hear. Better that than letting someone believe what they want to hear because you haven't actually told the truth. And look, if you really believe that your love life needs an MOT or a a bit of brush up, then there's no time like the present to do so. After all cleaning doesn't stop with washing the dusty blinds and scrubbing the kitchen does it? This week, you really have no excuses for not saying to someone 'dust my broom'.
I know that by playing the leading role in your man's life you often neglect their real needs. So it’s important to learn to be more compassionate and tolerant about yourself too. I also know there’s more hope, optimism and sensitivity in your heart than many people would believe. This week, suppressing your passionate nature isn't the answer, you need to make it clear to your partner or someone new if
single, that your independence is sacred. It's time to ask yourself a question. And the million dollar question is: do you love your life enough to change it? If the answer is yes, (and I'm thoroughly certain it is) then the planets are giving you carte blanche to do so.
With Jupiter's potent tension, there's a feeling that you must break free, do something different, find new romance, and there's a frustration and a restlessness you can't ignore. And if your man or admirer can also embrace change, then in the weeks to come, you can show you have the drive and energy to start the ball rolling. Love your life and there'll still be enough love to share with someone special too. In fact there's a touch of the heroiine about you. Say to yourself 'I challenge my life'. Love it, but challenge it too. It's not superhuman effort you need, just your own talents and desires. Both are the key to making the next few weeks, the best you've known for a long-time. And your pioneering romantic spirit will get you the attention you're looking for.
We all have to evolve. We do actually change, physically at least, because that is the nature of life. It's only when we resist that change that we become tangled in bad relationships, we lose faith in ourselves or feel that the world is against us. The word 'evolve' comes from two Latin words out of Greek, 'volare' and 'evolvere'. Which mean ascending and unfolding. But you can't be a bud and a flower at the same time. To be a flower you must give up being a bud. Similarly, in life we must make certain sacrifices if we are to become who we are. And this week, I think you know what you must give up in order to be who you want. If you understand this part of yourself and see how you can climb the ladder to relationship success, then another part of you must be left behind. Whether it's the lifestyle, the habits, the people or just the attitude, you are going through a big process of transformation.
There's a tremendous feeling of 'love is an awfully serious business' about you. Getting serious about love is fine if you know what you're getting serious for. Is it to make a commitment? Is it to dump emotional baggage or simply to make a decision about where you go from here? But you also need to take a more light-hearted view of love. To restore the joy and the playfulness that there once was and may now be missing. I also hope that you will see that making decisions now, doesn't negate the posssibility that you can change your mind later. Many of my Leo friends seem to believe that once you commit yourself to a 'yes' or a 'no' it means for eternity. And I think to myself: "If only they could take the Gemini approach and realise that you are allowed to change your mind." So grit your teeth and take on a more versatile, light-hearted attitude to your love life now, while you can.
Imagine yourself painting a portrait of yourself in the sky with vitalising colours rather than dim or obscure outlines (a sign of self-doubt and low esteem to be sure). Accept that tomorrow you might not like your partner very much because he sings out of tune or he farts in bed. I mean, laugh woman, laugh a little! Throw off that cloak of fear of change and let love be what it is. This week, you're ready to relax and take a more laid-back look at life. If single, suddenly it seems you're in demand again. Funny how as soon as you stop trying hard, you end up being wanted, isn't it? And with devlish Mars in Scorpio, someone leads someone else astray. Make sure it's you, who, with self-awareness and a growing confidence in yourself, leads the merry dance.
The 17th century french writer, Rochefoucauld, drily commented "we always love those who admire us, we do not always love those whom we admire." And this is of course a very succint point, particularly as you feel as if no-one is really admiring you, and you're doing all the admiring. And it's getting to a point where there's not so much a lack of love, but it's generating shall we say resentment, or even dare I say it, loathing? So why is this? Well, there's two possibilities so bear with me. Firstly, your partner or lover is doing so well in his career or just devotes so much time to his social life that you feel left out. Admirable though his success or self-reliance is. And whether single or attached, you just feel a tad neglected. So to be admired again, admire yourself, glance at the real you and acknowledge your weaknesses, but most of all start to activate your strengths.
Now, some time ago you unconsciously filed under 'ammunition' a rather pathetic remark from your partner or admirer. At the time, you probably took it far too personally and it now seems you're ready to use it against them. And as you peruse your mental filing cabinet, you discover other remembered events or trivial conversations. All experiences which you have tenaciously hoarded because one day you're going to get your own back. And thanks to Mars, you're ready to charge into battle with all your weaponry. But hang on, what for? Where is this hostility coming from? Is it because you've put up with so much for so long and you really do finally want to have your say? Or is it that you feel driven to take vengence because you feel emotionally lost and need to take control? Either way, put down your weapons, take a long hard look at who you are, and see that trying to possess others or control them is simply a compensation for low self-esteem.
With Jupiter's ongoing retrograde influence, you're going to be blessed with irritating new characters if single, and if attached, inflated reactions between you and your partner. With breathtaking honesty, you begin to let your man know that you may well dramatise life and get overtly erratic, but you are also utterly, one hundred per cent totally mysteriously female, and you're not going to ever be anything otherwise. There. You've said it. For all the begrudging mindset, there's also that nurturing, compassionate sensitivity, and a vulnerability that lies waiting to be unfurled alongside true love. It's time to unleash the wild woman, reveal your feminine mystique and let him know that you're a human being too.
Every time you start to make a value judgement learn to stop yourself, (mentally say, hang on, what AM I going on about?) particularly about others, but also towards yourself. Result? You're on the road to a deeper, more true and respectful kind of loving but not giving up on your autonomy. Healthy thoughts generate healthy mind, body and spirit. Likewise, if you think someone is a pain, or a problem, transform this into opportunity to learn about yourself. 'He's a pain' - what does that say about you? Are you actually reacting to your feelings because you have a very different value or belief system? Instead of thinking that your partner or admirer is an extension of you, recognize that they are individuals in their own right. Instead of thinking you know what's best for your man (whether at the dinner table or in bed) give him credit for knowing what he wants for himself. You are generous and loving and loyal, but don't rob your partner of his right to be himself. Trust works both ways, so trust in that, and then you won't feel you need to own someone, just love them. See the difference?
Lovers, friends or partners seem to be abroad, unavailable or just distant. Either that or they're giving you a wide berth. But why? Was it something you said, did or didn't do? Don't take it personally. I have seen in your chart a widening gap between your personal development and theirs. You're looking within, the'yre looking without. You're image-building, they're dumbing down. You're getting out and keeping fit, they're keeping mum about everything. Do you see the difference? Do you see now why you shine in their eyes and they feel less esteem and more like big silly billys? It's not your fault either. Venus is simply reminding you that sometimes out of sight, out of mind, is beneficial for all concerned.
"You found a dark, empty hole in which to pour the saddest feelings of your heart. You buried them then. Covered the pain with the soft crumbling earth of a cold day, and moved on. Yet you never forgot the joy of what had been. For joy is sacred." I found this anonymous grafitti scrawled in a ladies loo in a famous hotel in the south of France. My first thought was to write it down for you. Perhaps you have never felt like this? But I think you understand the sentiment attached to it. Right now, the planets are continuing to batter you with mixed feelings. At times the loss of someone, or the letting go of loss; at others, the memories of joy and how sacred that is. 'Moving on' has become in vogue. We are expected to get on with our lives and free ourselves from attachment to the past. But let it linger on a little, after all, the past will never catch up with who you will be tomorrow, will it?