10 to 16 October 2016 Weekly Love Horoscope
This week, be more aware of yourself every day. Every day, chose a strength of yours and work with it, play with it and express it in love. Whether it's boldness, zest, or fairness, acknowledge those qualities and give life to them rather than squish them for fear of what others will think. This week brings a promise of excitement in any close relationship. It's a time to make a promise to yourself too, or a commitment to someone else. Voice your feelings, air your thoughts. And if you've been augmenting your virtues and strengths rather than diminishing them, this week's lunar energy will work in your favour. Whether it's a new life or a new love, what's most important is that you develop an inner awareness of what you need and value most of all in intimate relationships. And what is that if not to live a bright, sun-shiney life where you also can get out and about and do your own thing?
You now have a chance to modify any zealous long-term plans or wllder intentions you had earlier this year. (And admit it, you did have plans which seemed romantic, cool or provocative, but now seem pointless). The planets this week say, ' tell your partner or lover what gives you a sense of fulfilment and happiness in life and then ask him what gives him that too? And the ongoing influence of Venus and Mars say, "but be ready to compromise, you can have it your way, as long as you both eliminate the negative and accentuate the positive things in life". And if single? A challenging planetary line-up in your chart, brings an equally provocative character into your social world. In the weeks to come, you could be throwing down the gauntlet, not for some silly verbal fight, more of the pillow variety. Just how you like it.
I suspect that you're beginning to get rather impatient with the dull routines of life when all you want to do is be loved for who you are not what he assumes you to be. You want romance 24/7. And I also suspect this week, with the sun's ongoing influence, that you'll be dazzling, seductive and confident
enough to throw out those silly rule-books about dating and mating and take a chance on spontaneity. There really is no reason not to be the most spirited, witty and elusive lover around. Remember, your man's getting at least two women for the price of one - the outrageous socialite and the intelligent guru. So never let him simply think ‘you're the one’, make sure he realises ‘you're double fun.’ Whether up or down, passionate or civilised, you're the ultimate paradox of the zodiac, and it's time for you to play. Don't deny your right to be you.
I want you to think about all the things you own and what they mean to you. Do you cherish some things for their sentimental value, others for their monetary one? Certain things have a curious hold over you and you just can't do without them but you don't know why. In fact, you can't measure or classify or categorise their value. Now apply the same rule to your love relationships. Do you fall in love with someone because they give you a sense of emotional comfort, material security, or they fill a gap which seems missing in your life? The planets are reminding you to think carefully about your love values. Perhaps sometimes you treat your partner or lover as if he's a possession too? And I'm rubbing this in this week, because this possessive, controlling part of your nature is really an expression of your horror of living an insecure life. That vulnerability is also about not knowing where the next pennny is coming from. How secure is your relationship? Do you really know where next kiss is coming from and who is going to make the beds and put the cat out? Think carefully, cats need to be let in too.
If single, admirers and hopefuls make tentative suggestions for dates, but then don't follow through. A lull in the romance department puts you on red alert, and you're wondering if it's something you said, or did or maybe your hairstyle's all wrong? And if settled, you decide that perhaps, yes, he ought to give you a bit more space and accept that life is made up of the unpredictable and inconsistent as well as the tried and trusted. Yet the lights for romance turn to green again, you're more laid-back, less anxious, more refined and self-contained. In fact, I suspect this week will confirm your feeling that there is always going to be a dichotomy between your romantic nature and his controlling one. So side with taking pleasure right now, and that new admirer you bump into or the man who happens to be at your side, will take pleasure in you too. Together you can fill the gap and flip his possessiveness into positive loving.
Some people are wary of flirts. Those who scorn flirtatious behaviour, associate it with infidelity, superficiality and 'danger'. Yet many are secretly envious of others who have the ability to charm their way through life with a smile of their face. Flirting with life means you're living life. Flirting creates positive engagement with others and life itself. And this week, I hope that you'll do exactly that. Not only to stir happiness into those around you, but to shine brightly and glow in the adoration of those who know that flirting is about connecting with other people, not disassociating from them. The word flirt orginates in an old french word meaning 'talk sweet nonsense' and 'touch something as you pass by'. And these deeper layers of meaning are of greater signficance than you can imagine. For if you talk sweet nonsense and touch someone with your heartfelt compassion, you may pass by and forget it, but the energy remains. Your touch will be remembered and rewarded in the weeks to come.
It's often said that the only time the world beats a path to our door is when we're in the bathroom. And guess what, that's exactly the theme and energy of this week. With the sun in your own sign, birthday this week or not, you might even want to retreat to a health spa alone and avoid the mob. You're suddenly feeling like doing your own thing alone. But why are certain admirers or loved ones so desperate to be with you? I mean, it's great for the ego, and it boosts your self esteem, but could it be they have darker motives? Perhaps one or two are in need of an ego fix themselves? As Graucho Mark is reported to have said, "No-one is completely unhappy at the failure of his best friend". So don't share your troubles, only your joys.
I know that you're unpredictable and that your moods, desires, and decisions can change at the drop of a hat. And of course they'll say you are overtly suspicious, whoever 'they' are. And your partner, lover or current admirer also seems to be obsessed by your cautious side and wants to fix it. Why? Can't he see that inconsistency is just as real and valuable as the consistent? Can't he see that if one day you want to blow hot and cold whether in the same breath or in several, then it doesn't imply you're unreliable or untrustworthy, simply changeable? I don't like to generalise, but men do have this habit of believing they know what's best for us, often generated by a desperate need to feel in control. So if he says, 'change your lipstick darling, it's too vampish', or 'don't wear that jacket, it doesn't do you any favours' then you'd be quite right to rebel graciously and be as hot and cold as you want.
Every man you know, every lover you have or just that Mr Right by your side are all keen to have you in their camp, and of course that has it's benefits, but it also has a price-tag. The price of personal freedom and pressure to perform. But this week, you begin to get used to it and deal with it effectively. You're moving up in the world, and it's time to accept support offered by a loved one and talk about your concerns, even if you think you're going to bore the pants off them. (Chance would be a fine thing). And whether you're indulging in a steamy bath at the end of a tough day, or enjoying a neck massage to ease tense muscles, any stress you've been feeling will quickly dissipate. Knowing that you're actually excited, challenged and in need of a new venture will put your body in balance with your mind and spirit. It's time to think big, but chill out; plan your future, but enjoy the present moment.
"There ain't no mountain high enough" to keep you from your personal designs, and it seems that the more you want to concentrate on work, the more the man in your life wants to have you to himself. It's hardly surprising he can't have enough of you, when you're bubbling with interesting anecdotes and fascinating plans for your future. But do they actually include him? Are you willing to give up that spirited independence and focus on joint goals? And if you're already firmly bound like super-glue to Mr Right, then it may be that you're beginning to wish the bond wasn't so tight. You just want to do things your way and you're not going to conform to anyone else's expectations and that's that. In fact, it includes everything from the way you do the washing up to your belief system. Don't change your mind, you have a right to do what's right for you, this week anyway.
It's time to indulge in you and your body-image. Take pride in your quirky nature, nurture your progressive outlook on relationships and make sure you really know what love means to you. And the powerful alliance between the planets is also reminding you to stop judging yourself too hard. Give up comparing your relationship with other people's and overthrow that authority figure within who keeps telling you to comply with convention. With tension in the air around Wednesday, intimate relationships seem to be a challenge that you can well do without. Yet, through a minor confrontation you'll see the major benefits of your objective view and your partner's creative one. Link them up rather than separate them and what do you get? THe chance to be the individualist you are and have a companion who respects you for giving him space too.
If we expect love to be a series of unforeseeable circumstances blocking our pathway, it usually obliges. If we assume that we can't change our lifestyles because we fear movement and flow, then we remain static. And I think you're beginning to realise that it's time to take action rather than scuttle into one of those negative thinking holes. With a more positive and dedicated sense of your own needs, you can push your way through the thickets of confusion, and keep your eye firmly fixed on your way ahead. Do you give up on personal commitments that really seem to tie you down, or just settle into the safety net of friends and family? A sense of guilt often stops us from doing what we really want to do. In fact, the planets trigger off a feeling it's now or never. There could be rifts, bridges built, or escape hatches left open, but if you don't honour your independent spirit, you wouldn't be you. Say no to boredom and static existence, and roll the dice.