A many splendoured thing is love, apparently. And this week there's a real feeling of romance in the air and that you're at last free from hostility or confrontation and harmony rules again. Not that it's been awful. But you have had the odd nagging thought in your head that you've been too worried about making your feelings known. Right now the planets are urging you to wake up to the romantic in you. It's time to write down a script of how you envisage your relationship will be for the months ahead. Decide what role you would truly like to play. Make a list of scenes, and give yourself an appropriate outcome (until script 2 is ready for production at least) and then start to act it out. With responsibility for yourself and your choices, the magic, romance and splendour of love you seek will come your way.
You've been acting the passive role model, willing to please, ready to agree to your partner's every word for fear of not being loved. Remember, dependency in a relationship isn't love. And whether single or attached, you really have to come to terms with what you expect and what is actually realistic in relationships. Neediness can blind us to the truth, it can create and fabricate all kinds of fantasies and our illusions are simply that - illusions. And I'm boldly going to suggest that right now it's time to give one relationship some air or sun-light. Because if you ignore, avoid, or keep it hidden in some dark, dank passageway, then rather like roses struggling for light, it will grow gangly and distorted. But there's only one person who can make that dream come true, and that's you. Then love will start to engage in your existence, rather than renounce it.
I'm afraid the planets have been responsible for a kind of lonely, unwanted, 'left out of the fun' kind of feeling you've recently had. And you don't like it. After all you're an extrovert and you love people. Yet the delightful influence of Venus, brings uncomplicated, no strings attached attention of the opposite sex variety (admit it, you've probably got more that way round). And you begin to develop closer friendships with people who matter. Serious, intelligent and like you, aware of their indlviduality. Perhaps more importantly proud of their ability to make choices and be honest about their values, and like you developing a sense of inner authority, and strength of character. Keep these friends or lovers warmly in your heart. For they will you.
The consumer thing has bugged you for some time. You know 'intelligently' that we're probably being brainwashed evey second of the day by publicity, marketing, PR and the media into must have this and that. Must love this way or that, must get married, must make the grade and have that happy family. It's all about our self-image too. So we buy into that self-image, we must fix it, improve it, be perfect, align to an ideal that fashion dictates. But this week you're feeling a little rebellious. You won't conform. You won't comply. And you won't carry on with love relationships like you're supposed to. In fact, thanks to Venus's long-term influence, you're more likely to plunge into the world of rare books than worry about love.
One relationship has been dragging you down and waking you up at nights for quite a while. But why? Is it perhaps that you haven't actually revealed your true feelings? Perhaps you've buried it all under a careless 'it doesn't matter what I feel or think anyway' attitude. Deep down inside there's this seething mass of resentment and anger that demands to come out from under those floorboards however carefully you've nailed them down. And the planets ar saying, it's up to you to be as honest as you can about your needs and speak from the heart. It may hurt, it my cause grief, someone may turn on you and accuse you of all kinds of things, but it's your integrity and autonomy that's at stake.
Don't give in to manipulation and other people's emotional investment in making you the guilty one, when it's probably more likely it's their behaviour which is in question. Free yourself from the chains of emotional negativity and prepare yourself for a week of spirited and adventurous energy. Take a more self-centred and radical approach to your love life, you're ready to start afresh. If attached you can now to make those all-important changes to your mutual life-style journey. If single, romantic seeds are sown in your heart for someone new. Whatever fills you with passion, whether it's poetry, music or running the family, there's something out there which you are compelled to pursue. Because if you sit complacently in some psychic bubble, you're never going to experience the kind of love that will bring you true happiness.
Urania was the muse of astronomy in Greek mythology (astronomy was akin to astrology in those days). And she has relevence to your love journey this week as the planets give you every reason to open your eyes to the bigger picture reflected out there in the starry sky. And with an open mind, and a partner or new admirer who respects you for it, you're going to be a bit like the 'Muse of the Heavenly Bodies'. The kind of bodies which merge in physical love and emotional bonding. So amuse yourself in the fact that you can change your relationships through honesty and awareness. Muse upon the fact that magic happens when you believe in it. And if you believe in creating a more passionate, vivid and creative life with someone, it will be magical too.
What are you advertising for right now? I mean, in your relationship world, are you putting out signals for someone strong, authoritative, passionate and materially secure? Or for a rebel, philosopher, mystic or poet? And if you're attached this is still relevent, because whoever you're with will be seeing this 'want ad' from their perception too. Perhaps you're not getting exactly what you thought you were advertising for when you first met? So this week could prove to be a little provocative to say the least. There will be confrontation and there will be challenge. If single, all those people out there are a disappointment, they don't live up to your ideal, or they just seem too full of themselves. If attached, you wonder if you made the right choice and is it too late to give up and start again? How much CAN you put up with? This week you'll find out you can put up with the kind of love that you never thought existed: pure and true.
This week you become more philosophical about love and life in general, and your romantic aspirations seem more viable. If single, one new friend confess they have similar issues about relationships themselves, and together you realise this could develop into a long-term rapport and one that's worth working at. If attached, don't sabotage a good thing. Of course you both need space and time alone, but just because your partner complains you're not 'communicating like you used to do', it doesn't mean you're straying. It's simply a bout of misunderstanding rather than incompatability that makes you both react in a negative way. This week's planetary line-up is certainly going to bring you the chance to turn dreams into reality. But first all know what YOUR reality is all about.
Some of us are constantly hungry, or feeling there's something missing in our lives. We put it down to the fact we haven't met our 'soul-mate' or that every relationship lets us down. (When of course it's our own expectations that are usually too great). But this gnawing desire for something ineffable still continues to haunt you, for all your rationalisation. It seems that it's not brilliant thinking and logical application which is needed, but the will to make something of your life for yourself, and you alone. And perhaps more profoundly, the willingness to accept that maybe you're hankering after something that doesn't exist? Of course that doesn't mean shrugging your shoulders and saying ' ah well, it's fate, I have no choice' - because you do. And it's time to get yourself out of the mess you're in (if you're in one), or begin to take responsibility for those choices and know the hunger for what it is - a gap that can be filled if you find a meaning in life which doesn't depend solely on a love relationship.
Right now, there's a subtler, more instinctual urge to rip down the metaphorical wallpaper that hides the cracks in the emotional walls in any relationship and to free yourself from illusions of perfect love. Embedded deep in our psyche (both male and female) is the archetypal feminine - the all-encompassing mother, lover, wife, vamp, houri, goddess. And living up to the ideal of the feminine, isn't exactly easy for simple mortals. What I am suggesting is, that nurturing your own company is the key to good loving. So hold up a mirror around the 16th and what do you see? Or what are you not willing to see? Not so much the wicked witch, more the wicked deity of love within you who is desperate for expression. Let her out.
Time seems to holds things together. It binds, organises, regiments, gives structure and space to our daily living. We obey it. Yet this week, you're not only feeling a tad rebellious in the love department but also in the timings of your social one too. You form new allegiances with people with similar interests or end ties with those who put down your current mission. You meet up with someone out of the blue who you haven't seen for years, and time suddenly seems to have no boundaries. Instead of neat lines and edges and punctuality and clock-watching, you're suddenly timeless, careless of when one minute ends and another starts. In fact, two hours nattering with your friend over coffee has none of the constraints of beginning and end. It is however, time well spent because you did not measure it. You are beginning to experience the 'eternal now' of love.