Your Free Weekly Horoscope (July 31, 2017)ARIES
There is something curious about your feelings. A strange psychic awareness that the cycles and rhythms of your physical and emotional behaviour are beginning, at last, to be more consistent with a partner or admirer. And if single, a knowledge, intuitive rather than empirical, that you're about to embark on a course of personal awakening to sexual happiness. "Love is the magician, the enchanter that changes worthless things to joy........with it, earth is heaven and we are gods." And as we dig deeper, you're going to feel like a deity in body and spirit. With a sparkling links this week, you discover exactly the truth about your own feelings and someone else's. So let love work its magic for you - it's now or never to make a commitment to your happiness.
So which is to be? Floundering in confusion, unsure of what you want or need, or creating a new solid foundation with the one you're with? And if single, the empty place and emotional gap can now be filled by the kind of lover or partner who understands your need to be number one in the relationship. Look, Mars is simply creating ego conflicts and the odd power battle out there. Partners are probably more worried about their own status than about any spiritual affinity. But behind the ego is also another lonely child, like your own. And behind that hardened scepticism is a soul. This week you can start to make romantic tracks again towards the twin flaming of true soul-mates.
Scott Peck's well-known book, 'The Road Less Travelled', comes from a less well-known Robert Frost line, " Two roads diverged in a wood, and I - I took the one less travelled by, and that has made all the difference'. This week, we can equate this divergence of roads with something powerfully divergent in your life. In fact, you are about to take the one less travelled by, and if you do so, I promise it will make all the difference to your love life and for the better. There's a kind of cyclical feel to relationships. If single, one ending, a chapter closing, or one beginning. If attached, maybe just a realisation that it's time to diversify, to welcome change, to evolve together rather than apart. This week, relationship wounds are dumped, but more importantly, you can free yourself from the chains of your attachment to those wounds.
This is a time of emotional healing, but it's also a time when if you deny that you need some kind of re-vision of the way you love, you simply end up deceiving yourself. Similarly, you might deny your desire for someone, saying 'no, of course I don't feel that, who me?' So that 'feeling' is something you've got to acknowledge, honour and express. I suggest you do the following to awaken you to your true needs in a love relationship. Write down on slips of paper a word for each feeling you believe you do NOT experience right now, whether it's anger, hate, joy or resentment. Then simply toss them in the air, and catch one randomly. Then try to express that feeling honestly, and it will make all the difference to your love for someone else, as well as love for yourself.
Think about this carefully. You have the charm factor, diplomatic skills and love of romance, and you keep relationships light-hearted and creative. But the other, more shadowy side of yourself seeks approval, and doesn't really love yourself enough to take responsibility for your choices. And I'm sure you've been in those situations where you respond automatically by saying 'yes', or feel uncomfortable in a crowd unless everyone's attention is on you. But this week the face in the mirror is more self-aware. If single, you draw intelligent characters into your life. In fact, you are natural, seductive, authoritative and balanced again.
It may seem as if you're not getting your true needs met in love, but with clarity and a renewed spirit of adventure and playfulness, you jump through the magic hoop of love and find happiness. If we don't act upon our desires then they're very unlikely to materialise without our input. And something tangible begins to emerge from a few spontaneous, romantic moments this week. And if you can be less worried about staying in control of the situation, and more relaxed about unknown factors, it will prove to be very inspirational. Whether single or attached, putting time and effort into relationships is one thing, but it's how you do it that counts. There's communication. There's sexual honesty, tolerance, space, time apart and acceptance of differences. Which have you left out?
Now no-one likes to be emotionally blackmailed. Not only does it drain the goodness out of relationships, but seals us up in an alembic of resentment, anger and growing hatred for the one we thought we cared about. But there does seem to be someone who's intent on manipulating and profiting from your altruistic nature right now. But look, that's the problem with altruism. Other people will take advantage of that kindly, 'everybody is equal and everyone deserves the best' attitude if they can. In fact, if we're really honest, most of us at one time or another experience selfish joy from having someone we love around us. For it's one's own personal happiness selfishly that we seek, earn and derive from love. This week, you really have no choice but to break free from the chains of the 'blackmailer' and show that you have the courage to be a little selfish too.
With Venus's enlightening influence in the most expressive part of your chart it's time to dump emotional angst and start to be more open about your true feelings. Rather like your 'true colours' they are shining bright right now. The more you activate the truth within, then the more likely you are to meet someone who can share in the process. It's time to relinquish self-sabotaging behaviour (don't keep telling yourself you're not good enough to be loved). Give up on that cognitive distortion where you pick out something negative about your admirer, and dwell on it to the exclusion of anything positive. (Your vision of reality will then only be inky and dark). Welcome the positive, and you welcome true love into your world.
'Tell me who you love, and I will tell you who you are' said the writer, Houssaye. And this astute quote will have much meaning for you this week, as romance take you by storm and you're either falling in love with someone new, tangled up in a love triangle or about to tie the ultimate knot. Of course, you might simply obey the 'rules' of the love game and play safe. But if you're at all like any of my Sagittarian friends, then I'm going to stick my neck out and say that when it comes to rebellion versus obedience, the former will always win. Can you honestly say that you will 'obey' anyone apart from yourself? Don't kid yourself. Go your own way and honour your freedom.
Don't jump to conclusions or conclude without any evidence that your partner is acting negatively towards you. It's time to listen as well as speak, touch souls as well as physically merge, and to open your heart to what you truly want. Reflect on Blaise Pascal's well-known line that 'the heart has its reasons which reason knows not of'. And if you are loving your partner because of their visions, DIY or sexual skills, then please remember that this is who you are too. And if you are falling in love with someone, then who they are, will tell you who you are. The planets simply confirm to you that loving yourself, means you need to maintain some kind of independence so that you can love someone with body, heart and soul. It's never too late to be ambitious in love as your are in work.
I know you can solve everyone else's problems, juggle the budget and still look fabulous. But after an unusually busy, yet satisfying few weeks, you're ready to collapse into the loving arms of someone close. Walking the fine line between crusading for others, and being true to yourself is a difficult act. So remember to cherish some personal space. This week, you have every opportunity to achieve great personal happiness in any new venture. But remember, now that Saturn is a constant niggle in your chart, there will be times when you feel like you're having to battle a lover or partner to be heard. Enjoy a little light-hearted banter and chaos.
This week could become the arena for some pretty pleases and some difficult decisions to be made. There's really no choice but to open up about your own personal doubts, liberate your inner voice, and show that you have as much right as anyone else to live according to your values. If they gel with those of your partner or lover, then that's fine. But make sure you're not deceiving yourself. Consider whether you feel under some obligation from others, from your partner if attached, or if single, just from your own sense of, "well if I give up now, then maybe I'll never find anyone else". There IS someone special out there, and it won't be very much longer before you realise who it is.